Voice Diaglogue

What is VOICE DIALOGUE? Voice dialogue is just having a natural conversation or dialogue with the inner voices or selves inside you who are trying to help you Having casual two-way conversations with your own inner selves, is natural, positive and very helpful, particularly when you can talk with any two selves that are both trying to help you but are locked in conflict over what you should or should not do about life’s problems (take that new job, don’t take it; work harder, take it easy; fight, give in; leave him now, stay on and try to fix things). 2. Inner selves inside us have a strong desire to be recognised. They are keen to tell us about what they want us to do or how they each think we should act to fix things. 3. They welcome an opportunity to have a conversation or dialogue, so the process is quite easy. It takes only a little practice, you can even do it on your own and and it does not require special skill or training. Talking to the selves gives you the awareness you need to separate each of them enough to bring balance back into your life, but without having to get rid of them (because they are still part of you). They will always have important jobs to do protecting you and you cannot and should never try to send them away. It's better to learn to get the selves balanced and use your aware ego to enhance the drive. 4. Each of us has many inner selves, some similar to those found in other people around you, some the exact opposite of theirs. Some of yours may be quite unique, existing only in you and in no one else. 5. Neuro psychologists now acknowledge that the presence of the inner selves as sub-personalities working inside you, is healthy and normal. In fact everybody has them. In truth we are all the normal healthy version of a ‘multiple personality’.  Thanks to John Bligh Nutting --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Why do Voice Dialogue? To discover who in you is running your life. Is it your ambitious self, your lazy self, your care-taking self, your inner responsible mother, your critical self in partnership with your inner perfectionist, or your spiritual seeker? To gain more choice in how you lead your life. Wouldn’t it be a relief if you have so far been dominated by the part of you who is never satisfied with what you achieve to suddenly feel good about your achievements? Wouldn’t it be great if you have so far been unable to say ‘no’ to requests from others to be able to say ‘no’ and to take care of your own needs? How freeing would it be if you have always been too tired or unmotivated to get out there and live your life to feel stimulated, interested and maybe even charged with energy and determination to do something worthwhile? And what a feeling it would be to know that in your relationship with your partner you could recognise when you fell into habitual patterns of relating which might be hindering your relationship’s growth - or even leading to its decline, and to unhook from those patterns and re-establish a vital and loving connection with each other. To feel more confident in who you are. When you learn about how you work, when you understand the amazing job your personality has done in protecting you and enabling you to survive, you develop a feeling of appreciation for all those inner selves who constitute the unique person you are. You realise that from the first day of your life you have always been a lovable and beautiful human being and that any beliefs contrary to that have been passed to you – often unintentionally – from others, such as parents, caregivers, school teachers, your religion and culture in general. To understand and appreciate others, including your partner, children, friends and, on a broader scale, people from all walks of life. Truly understanding others leads to greater peace and harmony for all.